Change It Up

Here we are, in what my Gen Z friends call the ‘Bers’; starting with September and ending in December.  It’s the time of year when we tend to be busier, as we prepare for the change of seasons and the multiple holidays which seem to roll around faster with each passing year. Daily routines are subject to extra errands, duties and considerations. And because we’re ‘retired’, family members may expect that we’re available to help out more and call on us to fill the gaps in their own schedules.

Then there is the reality of repetition. That is, the things we have/want or need to do to make the Bers enjoyable, which can (and should) bestow some degree of comfort and ease. Why? Because some tasks such as decorating and menu planning are not as time sensitive as going to the grandchild’s school holiday play. In addition, the repetitive motions are generally accomplished with less stress, because they have been done so many times before.

As always, we only have control over ourselves: our attitude and actions. When we exercise this control in ways that work to our ultimate benefit, its a win-win for us and others.

One important way we can do this is to leave some degree of mental ‘wiggle room’ in planning, so that unexpected events, people or plan alterations are less stressful, or stress free. When we actively manage our expectations and pre-plan to make adjustments if necessary before the holiday rush begins, the time we spend with family and friends will be more organic and enjoyable. Here’s a simple game plan to make the Bers bearable.

Do:

• Set aside some time for yourself. Even half an hour of ‘me’ time can deliver a revitalized you
• Plan ahead. In the weeks before Thanksgiving, use downtime to do or schedule what you know needs to be done.
• Organize stored holiday items in an easy to reach place, so that when you’re ready to decorate, you save time by having them all together.
• Maintain a calendar of extracurricular activities.
• Shop early for holiday gifts, or gift experiences rather than physical ones – they do save time.  

Don’t:

• Overspend. If you’re on a budget, overspending on gifts can cause future stress. Consider gifts of your time such as baby or pet sitting.
• Force yourself. Whether it’s pushing yourself to finish stringing lights or marathon shopping, know when you’ve reached your limit and stop.

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